In a recent blog post on setting up your business brain trust, I asked the question of who you find inspirational on social media websites and whether you’re interacting with them or not.
Many people find it hard to make the first move when it comes to human relations. With social media it’s easier, but people are still afraid to get burned, to miss the opportunity. What happens then is that people wait for the right moment to “make their move”, maybe even a sign from the other party.
Firstly, assume that the other person is going to be friendly (or professional). Secondly, act as you wish the other person will act towards you. Just relax, be friendly and act as if you take for granted that the other person do like you.
Sometimes the chemistry is there, other times it isn’t. Don’t try too hard to get the other person to like you. Remember that there is a fine line between charming and too charming.
Making the initial contact online there are no sweaty hands, no awkward smile or falling down at just the wrong moment. There is however a lot of communication flying around, a lot of clutter. This means that the initial try to make first contact, to get noticed, might not be successful. However it’s not because that the person doesn’t want to speak to you, it’s might just be that for one reason or another, the person simply didn’t hear you.
If you fail to make this first contact, try again. Don’t be an eager-beaver, but don’t give up either. The person you’re trying to get in contact with might have several different contact points. Try them all. If the person has a blog, comment on it. Make yourself seen and keep trying. As long as you’re not annoying, pushy or make the other person feel stalked, chances are that contact will happen eventually.
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